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Major news alert – not all teens ‘hook up’ April 20, 2010

Posted by Tantumblogo in Society.

Shocking!  There are some teens out there that don’t engage in the really sad practice of ‘hooking up,’ also known as a booty call – having casual, anonymous sex with someone you just met, generally after copious amounts of alcohol.  In spite of MTVs very best efforts, some teens are able to resist the siren song of sexual decadence!   Amazing!

Seriously, this hooking up phenomenon is very sad.  I’m sure the guys think it’s great, but it’s hurting them in ways they may never understand.   From the CNN article:

The term “hook up” is ambiguous, usually defined as a no-commitment, physical encounter with a stranger or acquaintance. Hooking up can range from just a make-out session all the way to sex. Other lingo for the no-commitment sexual encounters are “booty calls” or “friends with benefits.”

Various academic studies have cited at least 75 percent of women have engaged in hooking up on campus, and the number is usually higher for men. The activity is most likely precipitated by alcohol, studies show. Boyle’s decision to quit hooking up leaves her in the minority.

Evidence of the backlash on hooking up on campuses can be seen in the growing popularity of the Love and Fidelity Network, a secular, nonprofit group dedicated to helping college students open the discussion for a lifestyle that doesn’t involve casual sexual activity with anonymous or uncommitted partners.

The organization, which promotes sexual integrity and defends marriage though discussion and speakers, has gained a presence on at least 20 schools from Harvard University to the University of Notre Dame since its inception in 2007. There is no official count on the number of students who participate in the Love and Fidelity Network. But at Princeton University, about 40 students have joined.

Look, we’re all young, and we all do/did foolish things.  I sure did.  But that doesn’t mean that now that we’re older and hopefully wiser, we cannot advise the young amongst us that treating your gift of sexuality like it’s a Pez dispenser is not a way to life long happiness.  I’ve read and heard stories about things going on at high school and college parties that would have been unimaginable in my days, but would make Caligula proud.  We’ve allowed our culture to become so hyper sexualized that many kids today think nothing of giving away to anyone who comes along one of God’s greatest gifts.  Ultimately, this is the parent’s responsibility.  While no parent can perfectly insure that their child won’t do something they’ll regret, parents can make  a huge difference by instilling faith and morals into their kids that are consonant with the Catholic faith, and by trying to limit the exposure their kids have to the dominant culture.  This doesn’t mean you should lock your child away until their 25, but it does mean that parents should monitor what their kids watch on TV, what they listen to, their web-browsing, and most importantly their friends.  And while saying ‘no’ to your kids can be less than fun, it can make a huge difference in their lives.

There is a counter-cultural movement out there that rarely gets talked about, except in tones of sneering derision.  This is the deeply Christian homeschool, country-livin, courting movement.  This may not be for everyone, but it’s nice to know there are ways for young people to meet and move towards love without engaging in the ritual dances of our culture.

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