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Answering some questions about the Traditional Latin Mass January 22, 2013

Posted by Tantumblogo in Admin, awesomeness, Basics, catachesis, Dallas Diocese, General Catholic, Glory, Grace, Interior Life, Latin Mass, North Deanery, priests, sanctity, Tradition.

A very long time reader – I think she was one of the people reading back when I had 6 page views a day! – asked some questions offline about assisting at the Traditional Latin Mass.  In this case, she means specifically Mater Dei in Irving.  That being one of the few TLM parishes I have personal knowledge of, I’d like to address her questions directly.

  1. Do all women wear a veil at Mater Dei?  Do they have to?

    The answer to both questions is no.  Most women do, but there are a fair number who do not.  And there are a few women who wear doilie type coverings which I’d prefer to just go bareheaded, but that’s just me.”

    You can obtain a veil in a number of places.  Mater Dei actually has some “loaners” they keep washed for women who don’t have one but want to wear one. You can buy them online. My wife actually uses long scarves that I think look very elegant.  Not sure if any of the Catholic bookstores around here have any.  But if you just want to check out the Mass, you can do without a veil the first time if you want.

  2. What kind of faith formation do they have at Mater Dei?

    There is little formal instruction. There is no RCIA in the Tradition of the Church.  Traditionally, candidates for conversion would meet with the priest of a given parish, and that priest would make recommendations to the candidate on how best to proceed.  Having said that, there are classes Tuesday night in Catholic spirituality which are incredible.  I haven’t been able to go much this year, but they are great.  But these are not RCIA, specifically.  I would suggest any person interested in receiving any of the Sacraments meet with one of the priests.  All their contact info is available on website and the weekly bulletin.  I don’t want this to sound like there won’t be help, or formation – just assisting at Mass will be the best formation you’ve ever received.

There were some other items I wanted to bring up that I think have some relevance for newcomers to the TLM.  Taylor Marshall had a post the other day about preconceived notions people have regarding the TLM and the people who go there.  I want to give my experience.

The people at traditonal parishes have been really welcoming and open.  Wherever you have hundreds of people come together, you’re going to get all kinds of personalities, but overall, I’d have to say that I’ve never felt at home in a parish as I do at Mater Dei.  It’s not even close.  So many parishes are so huge that it’s hard to find a place.  And even if you do, you’re just kind of off in your little group and, outside of that, just another of thousands.  At a smaller parish, that kind of outsider status is less of a problem. That doesn’t mean there aren’t grouchy people – there are a handful that are sort of hard to deal with, especially if you have fussy little kids at Mass – but that’s the exception. The rare exception.  For the most part, folks at Mater Dei are very, very pleasant, and the socials after the Sunday Masses make it very easy to meet many, if not almost all, of your fellow parishioners.

I’ve never really run into a busybody, or some holier than thou type that comes to “correct” you (or maybe, that’s me!……..uhhh…..), or any of the stereotypes those who have an axe to grind against the traditional Mass try to perpetuate. Belonging to a traditional parish has been an overwhelmingly positive experience for me AND  my family.  It’s been transformational in our whole lives, and I know a number of other people who claim the same.

That’s why I keep imploring people on the blog to try the TLM out.  The TLM parish – if you are lucky, and can find a traditional community that is in full union with the Holy See – is more than just the Mass, which is of course the best and by far the most important part, but it’s a microcosm of a truly Catholic community.  It’s a group of people trying to live their lives FULLY in accord with the Faith.  For many folks, the parish becomes the center of their lives, or the second center after their own homes. And there is great comfort in having that.

If y’all have any more questions or thoughts or even derogatory comments about the TLM, I’ll do my best to answer/rebutt what you’ve got.  I cannot encourage being involved regularly at a traditional parish enough!



1. JLG - January 23, 2013

Most of the catholic stores in the metroplex carry veils. I know for certain that Sacred Heart, Two Hearts and Catholic Arts and gifts carry veils. My dad bought one at the Catholic store in Arlington for my fiancé too. My fiancé really likes “Veils by Lilly” but has also gotten into wearing scarves ( thanks to your wife and a couple of other women). EWTN also offers veils from $6.00 online.

2. skeinster - January 23, 2013

re: veils. For your first visit or so,unless you would feel too conspicuous without one, I would actually leave that off. Wearing an unfamiliar headcovering while trying to follow along in the red book is a distraction you don’t need in the very beginning.

If you want to wear one- like Mrs. Tantumergo, I really recommend the long scarf, available at Wal-mart, Kohl’s, Sam Moon, etc.. Worn wrapped around the head with one end in front and one in back, it stays put- a cardinal virtue of veils.

But most importantly, please don’t let this keep you from visiting.

Ditto the stereotype of the Cranky Trad. Alas, this one had a real basis in fact- about fifteen or twenty years ago. The combination of Summorum Pontificorum and the biological solution (R.I.P.) has caused a visible shift in mood.
Please do come see us.

tantamergo - January 23, 2013

Awesome comment! Thanks!

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