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Some salutary lessons for Catholic parents from tragedy of the Duke U. pr0n queen March 17, 2014

Posted by Tantumblogo in abdication of duty, contraception, episcopate, error, foolishness, General Catholic, horror, sadness, scandals, secularism, self-serving, sexual depravity, sickness, Society, Spiritual Warfare.

Unless you have been living under a rock – or being a good faithful Catholic (better than me!) who manages to completely, utterly ignore the open sewer called the “popular culture,” you have heard by now about the Duke University freshman who decided that the only way she could afford Duke’s mammoth (and completely  unjustifiable, especially for a “women’s studies” major) cost was to engage in a fervent career in making pr0n.  This is a tragedy of immense proportions, not only for the young woman involved, but for her ostensibly “devout Catholic” family and for the Church and world at large.

I don’t think I need to spend much time highlighting the evil that this woman is engaged in.  She is committing the most diabolical form of prostitution satan has ever managed to devise.  Women now sell their bodies not to one  man at a time, or even a small group, but to thousands, even millions, with each one of these items of filth they create. And for any sexular pagans that come along, no, I am not a prude, no, I do not have “hangups,” I am someone who has been there and done all that and knows – KNOWS – the nightmarish repercussions that result – personally, culturally, you name it.

That this case has involved lies from the get-go should hardly be surprising.  The pr0n queen initially tried to blame the high cost of college tuition at Duke for her having to stoop so low.  Then it came out she turned down an total scholarship to Vanderbilt. She then tried to blame her parents, saying they had somehow cut off her school funding.  That was later dropped, and now she brags at how “empowering” it is to have complete strangers defile her body in ways that would have caused hardened prostitutes from a few decades ago to blush, if not hyperventilate. And that’s just the beginning – after the initial abuse she engages in, thousands or millions of men and women will subsequently abuse her by proxy in the exact same ways.  Porn is one of the greatest evils destroying what few remaining shreds of virtue exist in this culture.

But as I said, there are some salutary lessons for Catholic parents in this nightmarish episode.  First of all, this girl is the product of a lifetime of Catholic education (extreme content warning on this link).  While the problems with Catholic schools and universities are legion and exceedingly well documented, it is probably a bit much to blame them specifically for this fall.  However, we can say with certainty that Catholic schools, today, tend to turn out not good faithful Catholics, but thoroughly worldly and secularized young people who have been taught that monetary remuneration is the number one goal in life, and that religion, if one should choose to bother to practice it, is at best a sidelight to the real goal of being “financially secure.”  There are exceptions, but they are rare and did not come into play in this case. Rare exceptions aside, I continue to believe that sending kids to Catholic schools is one of the worst moves a parent can make, if they want their kids to be pious souls.

Secondly, this girl reports that she has been using pr0n since she was 11 and abusing herself for at least that long.  Parents, if this case doesn’t motivate you to get both a very strong internet filter AND accountability software, I don’t know what will.  Here we have a young woman who has fallen in the worst way declaring that her use of porn played a huge role in her degrading mind-warp.  Please get filters and accountability software on all your computers. Good priests will tell that that if you don’t, you will bear grave moral culpability should any of your children fall into this terrible habit. They can tell you, and I can confirm, that early exposure to porn and self-abuse take a near miracle (or an actual one) to overcome.

Victim on the left

Victim on the left

Thirdly, we see what kinds of evils radical feminist agitprop can lead to.  Acceptance of the diabolical ideas coming out of modern feminism lead to incredibly twisted thinking, thinking that can try to justify being used as a piece of meat as somehow a triumph for the dignity of women.  It seems incredible anyone could actually fall for this, but there it is.  Even more disturbingly, some of the most radical and mind-blowing thought in feminism has come from none other than truly whacked out lesbo-feminist female religious like Mary Daly, who was somehow managed to teach at a supposedly Catholic college for 30 years.

There are many other questions and aspects of all this.  Just because a paper like the Daily Mail calls people “devout Catholics” doesn’t mean they really are.  But it does seem at least one of this family’s other children is a pretty active Christian, so maybe there are.  The fact that the Daily Mail outed the family at all, and even included a photo of their house, is truly terrible.  I’m sure their life, already nightmarish enough, just got a lot worse.

Sadly, we can expect more of this to come.  The world is truly upside down, and it seems there are powerful forces within that want to turn the Church upside down with it.  Cardinal Caffara of Bologna rightly opined that the efforts to permit bigamist Catholics to receive the Blessed Sacrament will result in the total destruction of Catholic moral Dogma on human sexuality, marriage, and the family if implemented.  Yet, these efforts seem to have the support of many of the highest authorities in the Church.  We can be sure that any weakening of Church Dogma will only mean seeing more pr0n, more moral degradation, more evil, and more Catholic girls and boys falling into hideous, soul-scarring (if not destroying) sin.

This is a morality play for all of us to see, if we are willing to see it.


1. discipleofthedumbox - March 17, 2014

This is too sad. Such a pretty girl to have fallen so low as is being reported. We should all find ourselves more vigilant as tantam has recommended for our own children’s sake. External beauty is one thing and as the saints have taught, by comparison to the beauty of the grace-filled soul, the least of all things.

2. Christopher Ekstrom - March 17, 2014

So much for “… Catholic girls start much too late”! The muted reactions to this might indicate absolute immoral indifference…or fear that “there but by the grace of God” go my kids. I would be interested to know if her Catholic school approached this as a very, very grave “teaching moment”. No shame, no Grace!

3. cptnemo7029 - March 17, 2014

Reblogged this on Chastisement 2013 and commented:
Great Post. This poor girl needs our prayers as she is involved in some of the most vile and evil filth on the planet.

4. mandrakos - March 17, 2014

“I continue to believe that sending kids to Catholic schools is one of the worst moves a parent can make.”

I would like you to expand on this if you would be so kind (or point to a post where you have in the past). I’ve been thinking about schooling recently since I have young children approaching that age. I know that the closest Catholic school is most likely pretty weak in formation (I have slightly higher hopes for another one a bit further away in a parish that has a weekly EF), but I can not fathom sending them to government schools. I figure that it is our job (i.e. the parents) to teach them the One True Faith, and I view the Catholic school as a ‘safer’ place for them than a government school.

Obviously the best solution is homeschooling, which my wife and I have briefly discussed but we are not yet sure if our situation will allow for it.

tantamergo - March 17, 2014

I am a strong advocate in favor of homeschooling. I don’t know where you live, or what Catholic schools are like in your area, but overall, there are not many good ones available. There are some good conservative Novus Ordo or traditional schools/academies available that I would have no problem with. They are expensive, but they do teach the orthodox faith and make it the priority. If you could find one like that, I’d say go for that if possible.

However, knowing how expensive Catholic schools are, I’d really encourage you to seriously pray and think about homeschooling. I cannot tell you how much joy it has brought my wife. I was initally pretty cool to the idea but now I am a fervent supporter. There are so many rewards that come from it, not just academic/formational. You will be assuring your kids will be lifelong best friends. We really see that in our family. Don’t worry about “socialization” arguments, they’re bunk, the kids will be better socialized than almost all their peers.

If you or your wife have questions I’d be glad to put you in touch with my wife, she has a lot of resources and has really good attitude towards homeschooling. Don’t stress small things, don’t freak out trying to adhere to a curriculum, pick out materials that work for you and your kids and do your best. You’ll be light years ahead of public school kids.

At this point, I would assess the average public school and the average Catholic school as almost a toss up in terms of which threatens the faith of your child more.

discipleofthedumbox - March 17, 2014

As a homeschooling father of eight, I second the recommendation.

mandrakos - March 17, 2014

Thanks for the kind words. We are in somewhat of the opposite situation, I don’t need to be convinced about homeschooling (the thought of allowing someone else to educate my children is appalling), and I think my wife, reluctant at first, is slowly coming around to the idea. Currently her biggest concern is how to work with the older ones while there are little ones about. I know that plenty of people do it and it can be done, we just need to figure it out. We’ve still got a couple of years before we need decide. We currently live in a very high cost of living area (Northern Virginia) so my first priority is to get job out of this area. Accomplishing that will go a long way towards making homeschooling a reality.

I may take you up on the offer to ask some further questions of your wife in the future. Thanks again.

Danielius - March 17, 2014

“I tell my relatives to send their teenage children to a secular college, where they will have to fight for their faith, rather than to a Catholic college where it will be stolen from them.” Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen

Note: Seems a bit dodgy quote and possibly a paraphrase, because I remember first reading this somewhere as a dialogue between a mother and the good Archbishop. Sadly, couldn’t find the proper reference by search engines. Anyway, I consider the sentiment of it correct. It seems that the majority of “Catholic” schools are 99% same as the secular ones, maybe they have a chapel (possibly with pajama Masses like at Notre Dame! Woo!) and some (liberal) ordained presence, but that’s it. At the very least, I’d advise you to talk with the teachers and have a good look at the curriculum and examine some of the individual lectures. Finding some graduates/current students to ask them about the attitude towards the Faith would be good too.
An acquaintance was once interviewed for a teaching job at a Catholic high school. During the interview the principal assured him that it was by no means a Catholic school (I wonder if he tells that to the parents as well)! I also remember looking up a program at some Jesuit college, it had a liberal demythologizing historical Jesus course followed by a course on orthodox Sacramental theology (you know, Liturgy in Heaven, Priest in persona Christi, etc.). So beautifully subversive and I still can’t think of a reason why a Catholic school would do something like that!

So, all in all, be very careful and home-schooling may indeed be the safest option.

5. Joanne S - March 17, 2014

i’m saddened to see that we have so little faith in our Catholic educational institutions (primary, secondary and college). I’m right there with you too. Between the cost of tuition and the poor catechism do we not have a responsibility to confront our priests and principals and ask them to do better? Homeschooling is very appealing, my husband and I are discerning that now for our little ones, but at the same time is it right to turn our backs on Catholic education and just say oh well, it’s going down the drain I’ll educate at home?

tantamergo - March 17, 2014

Joanne, I think a lot of folks have tried, but have not met with much success. We ran into terrible interference over our desire to form our kids at home for First Communion. Don’t ever tell them you use the Baltimore Catechism!

Seriously, there have been whole books written on the sufferings good people have gone through, trying to work with dioceses and others to reform the schools. Aside from a few exceptions, they get little support and a great deal of hostility.

It is a very sad situation. At present,the problem is so deep and wide and universal, it is beyond parent’s ability to fix. So, the option is to just drop out. Not ideal, but forming your kids, not saving the school system, comes first.

discipleofthedumbox - March 18, 2014

I’d rather turn my back on the institutions, as you write, than to submit my children to them in the hopes that things will turn around while they are in there. That is not a risk I am willing to take.

6. Baseballmom - March 17, 2014

I helped start a Catholic school in Napa because of the awful state of “Parochial” education. Actually, we do everything possible to keep the tuition low, as many of our families are large families and they are precisely the folks we are trying to serve.

7. M.P. - March 18, 2014

God had mercy on my sons because of the abuse situation with my oldest in second grade at a Catholic school, I took them out and we had a very good public school nearby and the boys actually had some good Catholic teachers there. And my sons stayed Catholic. I don’t know of any of their early friends from the Catholic school that did, sadly. I also homeschooled for a while. I certainly would now if I had young children.

That deceived young woman went to a Jesuit school, didn’t she? Nuff said there.

discipleofthedumbox - March 18, 2014

You know…to enter into that ‘industry’ one must first accept a contraceptive mindset…hmmm…where was that learned, I wonder?

8. TLM - March 18, 2014

A truly hideous thing to watch in our upside down world. And an even more hideous thought that our children or grandchildren may succumb to such depravity. God PLEASE forbid it!! To be vigilant with them should be of our UTMOST priority. And then pray for God’s endless MERCY on us all. The last year (the oldest in grade 5) that my grandchildren were in Catholic school (because of various reasons) I was at first upset that they were being pulled. Then toward the vary end of the year our 5th grader was treated to an obnoxious display of “sex ed” by the Principal. (a woman) The parents were told ahead of time that the classes would be separated (boys in one, girls in the other) which did not happen. That was not the worst of it, however. There were embarrassing displays and slang words for genital parts, sexual intercourse and even self gratification galore, and our poor grandson came home in tears saying it was the worst day of his life! At that point I knew that God had our family all under His loving care by getting them out of there. The public school they are in now is a good one, but I would love it if they could be home schooled.

discipleofthedumbox - March 18, 2014

I would encourage you to request that your grandchildren also be moved to the home for schooling. For example, at the age of 13 years I was probably singing that which was sung by my peers in the public school, Van Halen’s Hot For Teacher comes immediately to mind. By contrast, my 13 year old son, who is homeschooled, I caught (caught, I tell ya!) singing Modest Mussorgsky’s Great Gate of Kiev just yesterday afternoon before farm chores. He wasn’t aware of what the tune was called exactly, he just started singing it extemporaneously, as it were. It was a fantastic moment to refresh his memory concerning the great composer and the body of work related to the composer.

To all: What do your children or grandchildren sing unprompted by either you or their parents? That might just be another indicator for you to aid in your determination of where they might be schooled.

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