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Feeling impatient?! Get humility! August 4, 2014

Posted by Tantumblogo in awesomeness, Basics, catachesis, General Catholic, Grace, Interior Life, mortification, sanctity, Tradition, true leadership, Virtue.

From a very good treatise on humility by Father Cajetan Mary de Bergamo, Humility of Heart:

The proof of true humility is patience: neither meekness of speech, nor humbleness of bearing, nor the giving up of oneself to lowly works, is a sufficient indication by which to judge if a soul is truly humble. There are many who bear all the appearance of exterior humility, but who are angered at every slight adversity and resent any little vexation which they may encounter.

If under certain circumstances we show toleration and patience in bearing an insult, in suffering a wrong in silence without indignation and anger or resentment, it is a good sign, and we may begin to conclude that we have some humility; but even then, patience can only be an infallible sign of true humility when it proceeds from the recognition of our own unworthiness and when we tolerate the wrong because we know that we ourselves are full of faults and are deserving of it.

And how do we stand, O my soul, in regard to this patience?  O my God, how much pride I find, even in my patience!  Sometimes I suffer a wrong, but at the same time I feel that I am wronged. I suffer an insult, but consider that I do not deserve it. And if others do not esteem me, yet I esteem myself.  Is there humility here?  Not a vestige of it!

The Holy Fathers attribute to Jesus Christ the words which the prophet says of himself: “For I am ready for scourges,” (Ps XXXVII:18), because by reason of our iniquities which He had taken upon Himself, He considered Himself deserving of all the penalties and opprobrium of the world. Here is the pattern of true humility.

Very different is the patience of the philosophers and stoics and the patience of worldly people, from that of true Christians.  The stoics taught great patience in their writings and by their example, but ti was a patience that was the outcome of pride, self-esteem, and contempt for others. The worldly-minded, may bear some anxieties and afflictions of their state of life….but it is a patience that proceeds from interested motives, or the necessity of worldly prudence.  Christians alone possess that patience united to humility which receives every adversity with submission to the Divine Will, and this is the patience which is pleasing to God.  For, as Saint Augustine says: “That which a man does from pride is not pleasing to God, but that which he does from humility is acceptable to Him.”

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I have recited the following a few times before on this blog, but it bears much repetition in this profoundly disordered age of ours: suffering leads to meekness, meekness leads to humility, humility leads to charity, charity to sanctity, sanctity to salvation.  Humility is the vital prerequisite, according to many Saints, especially Carmelites, for charity.  If you want to really love God, you must learn to become humble. And tendency towards patience is a very strong indicator of possessing humility.

I fear we are going to need enormous patience in the near future, so perhaps I should get busy working on humility!  But I whine if I kneel for a couple of hours, or miss a meal!

Our culture/upbringings did not prepare many of us well to be good sufferers!  Lord give us strength!


1. TG - August 4, 2014

Thanks for the post. Patience is the hardest virtue for me. I get impatient at the slightest inconvenience with certain people. For me the easiest way for me to be humble is to keep my mouth shut but then there’s my thoughts. “Patience can only be an infallible sign of true humility when it proceeds from the recognition of our own unworthiness and when we tolerate the wrong because we know that we ourselves are full of faults and are deserving of it.” – I am going to try to remember this quote.

2. Baseballmom - August 4, 2014

And excellent reminder of how pride is often at the root of our so-called good works… We must always be aware of our true motivations…

3. Branch - August 5, 2014

I have a hard time balancing patience without drifting into indifferentism; not that I don’t care, but that as I care, I tend to get angry with the insanity (though I am not immune to my own ridiculousness) and so I am impatient with things I observe (such as all that is going on in the Church today).

TG - August 5, 2014

I am the same way. I tend to fall into indifferentism too. Either I care too much or not all. It’s hard to find that middle. I’m feeling the same way about the church right now.

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