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Saint Alphonsus on Meekness in Correction… May 11, 2016

Posted by Tantumblogo in awesomeness, Basics, Christendom, family, General Catholic, Glory, Grace, Interior Life, mortification, reading, Saints, sanctity, Tradition, Virtue.
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…..or, meekness when one has spiritual authority over others, such as a parent has over a child.

I wish I could excerpt the entire chapter, as it is all extremely good, but I will focus only on certain portions for the sake of brevity.  From pp. 316-322 of The Holy Eucharist:

The spirit of meekness is peculiar to God…….Hence it is that a soul that loves God loves also all those whom God loves, namely, her neighbors; so that she eagerly seeks every occasion of helping all, of consoling all, and of making all happy as far as she can.  St. Francis de Sales, who was the master and model of holy meekness, says: “Humble meekness is the virtue of virtues, which God has so much recommended to us; therefore we should endeavor to practice it always and in all things.”  Hence the Saint gives us this rule: “What you see can be done with love, do it; and what you see cannot be done without offence, leave it undone.”  [Duly note, St. Francis was quite emphatic in his rejection of protestant errors, which he wrote in pamphlets against the Calvinists in the Chablais, and converted almost all of them back to the Faith.  So this guideline can be given a somewhat broad interpretation]

…….It is one thing to correct with firmness, and another with harshness; it is needful at times to correct with firmness, when the fault is serious, and especially if it be repeated after the subject has already been admonished of it; but let us always be on our guard against harsh and angry correction; he that corrects with anger does more harm than good. [Something I fail at quite a bit! Pray for me!] This is that bitter zeal reproved by St. James. Some make a boast of keeping their family in order by severity, and they say it is the only successful method of treatment; but St. James speaks not so: But if you have bitter zeal……glory not (Jm iii:14).  If on some rare occasion it be necessary to speak a cross word, in order to bring the offender to a proper sense of his fault, yet in the end we ought invariably to leave him with a gentle countenance and a word of kindness.  Wounds must be healed after the fashion of the good Samaritan in the Gospel, with wine and oil: “But as oil,” says St. Francis de Sales, “always swims on the surface of all other liquors, so must meekness prevail over all our actions.”  And when it occurs that the person under correction is agitated, then the reprehension must be deferred til his anger has subsided, or else we should only increase his indignation. [Good advice] The Canon Regular St. John said: “When the house is on fire, one must not cast wood into the flames.”

You know not of what spirit you are (Lk ix:55).  Such were the words of Jesus Christ to His disciples James and John, when they would have brought down chastisements on the Samaritans for expelling them from their country.  Ah, said the Lord to them, and what spirit is this?  This is not My spirit, which is sweet and gentle; for I am come not to destroy, but to save souls: The Son of Man came not to destroy souls, but to save (Lk x:56). And would you induce Me to destroy them?…..Never make the like request to Me, for such is not according to My spirit………

And when it happens that we ourselves commit some fault, we must also practice meekness in our own regard.  To be exasperated at ourselves after a fault is not humility, but a subtle pride, as if we were anything else than the weak miserable creatures we are.  St. Teresa said: “The humility that disturbs does not come form God, but from the devil.” [Again, this must be taken in context.  A little bit of anger at self for a fault need not be prideful, but can be a motivation to avoid the fault in future.  True, we should trust in God for our conversion and aversion to sin, but we can also use certain means to motivate ourselves.  The best method, however, is great humility and recognition of our weakness. To be angry at ourselves after the commission of a fault is a fault worse than the one committed, and will be the occasion of many other faults; it will make us leave off our devotions, prayers, and communions; or if we do practice them, they will be done very badly.  St. Aloysius Gonzaga said that we cannot see in troubled waters, and that the devil fishes in them.  A soul that is troubled knows little of Godand of what it ought to do.  Whenever, therefore, we fall into any fault, we should turn to God with humility and confidence, and craving his forgiveness say to him, with St. Catherine of Genoa: “O Lord, this is the produce of my own garden!  I love Thee with my whole heart, and I repent of the displeasure I have given Thee!  I will never do the like again: grant me Thy assistance!”

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I pray you found this useful!

 

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Media elites suggest it is wrong for young men to reject “transgenders” interested in them May 11, 2016

Posted by Tantumblogo in asshatery, Basics, disaster, error, General Catholic, horror, persecution, Revolution, secularism, self-serving, sexual depravity, shocking, sickness, Society, unadulterated evil, unbelievable BS.
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You know the old saw some people will say: “I’m okay with homosexuality, so long as they don’t make it mandatory?”  Yeah, about that.  The media elites driving the “gender is a construct” revolution in Western society have spoken, and they have decided it is bad, very bad, for males to reject men pretending to be women on the basis of their being, uh…..not women.  That is to say, the fantasy play we are all to be forced to enact will extend into the most intimate areas, making one a bigot if one decides simply slapping on some makeup and shaving the legs isn’t enough to make one a woman:

Transgender teens Claire, Devon, Arin and Katie have set out to expose the harsh reality of modern, teen relationships. [Do notice, the “harsh” reality revolves entirely around the disastrous choices these men have made] 

Appearing in a new BBC Three documentary, Young, Trans and Looking for Love, they let viewers see a glimpse of their lives as they struggle to find love. [Not a whiff of indoctrination here]

The doc shows the moment Claire, from Virginia, meets a guy that she likes, only to be rejected by him as soon as he finds out she was born a boy….. [#$@%^&!!  What do you expect!  This is infinite solipsism.  Trans-boy gets to be picky about who HE chooses, but it is so wrong for others to have criteria in their dating (which is very disordered, anyway).  Does trans-boy go after girls?  No.  But this creature expects men to shuck all their preferences and fundamental inclinations and go along with her mental illness-inspired fantasy reality?]

…….She says: “In a lot of ways, I don’t like telling a guy. Once I tell him all respect goes out of the window. [I’ve mentioned I’ve had some interaction with trannies. I deliberately use the term they find offensive.  One of my biggest complaints about them is you will never meet a group of more offensively narcissistic individuals in your life.  Brittle, unstable, and pathologically narcissistic, which we see here, this individual deciding it no problem to found a relationship on a lie.]

Straight guys just can’t get over you having the male parts[I simply don’t know what to say.  But you can see the depths to which we will be forced to comply with the deranged fantasies of desperately sick individuals]

“Once I’ve had or get the surgery, I think it will change a lot for me because right now if I meet a straight guy and he doesn’t know – we can’t get physical if I don’t tell him. [So Mr. Infinite Solipsism decides it best to found all future relationships on a lie.  Like the fact that he is a male, and always will be, no matter how many people cooperate in his fantasies.]

“And then if he finds out, things just get so complicated, I can’t even begin to explain.” [Gee, you mean the fact that you’re a man who’s had all kinds of unnecessary surgeries and dangerous chemical treatments to appear more like a woman?  Basically, your entire existence is a lie, you are (or will become) incapable of reproducing, you will always, no matter what, have a Y chromosome and will be biologically male?  Yeah, just a few “complications.”]

There are some heart-breaking pics at the original story, which I did not link to.  Fairly safe link above.  I cannot imagine what trauma caused normal, healthy-looking little boys to so despise themselves they seek to obliterate their God-given existence.  Three almost certain factors: poor father image/absence of male role model, the constant cultural attacks on manhood and masculinity, and chronic self-abuse.  Self-abuse and porn use drastically alter the brain, leading to all manner of perversions of thought and being.  Note that something like 80% of so-called transgenders are male.

It will be mandatory, at some point.  It is not at all preposterous to claim that at some point in the relative near future, it will be considered a hate crime to reject same-sex advances.  Look at how far we’ve fallen just in the last 10-20 years alone.  But then again, sometimes, dramatic turn arounds do occur.  Who would have predicted the fall of the Soviet Union in 1984?  And yet 5  years later, it was gone.